Biang yang selalu menjadi pertengkaran kita dengan istri kita itu adalah tentang masalah keyakinan!

💁💁💁💂___ assallaamualaikum....__💁💂💂💂

"Apa Yang kita yakini dan apa yang istri kita yakini,itulah biang yang membuat kita selalu bertengkar dengan suami atau istri kita".

Wahai para pemuda...

Buat kalian yang baru merasakan kehidupan berumah tangga,kalian  harus tahu,jika umur rumah tangga kalian baru berumur 3 bulan,

Itu adalah saat alias keur manis manisnya kita sama pasangan kita.

Kita mau ke kamar mandi pun istri kita ikutin hahahahaha...

Saking takut di tinggalin kali,hahaha...

Di umur 3 bulan dalam berumah tangga,biasanya sifat dan sikap asli kita dan istri kita masih belum terbuka.

Alias masih jaim,

JaIM WOY,bukan baIM,ntar marah orangnya di omong omongin,hahhaa....

Selang satu tahun kita berumah tangga ,barulah masalah mulai menghampiri biduk rumah tangga kita.

Permasalahannya datang karena di satu sisi kita sebagai suami ingin pisah rumah dari orang tua si istri,alias pengen hidup mandiri,dan ngontrak rumah,

Di satu sisi,si istri masih ingin tinggal bersama ibunya,bersama orang tuanya.

Kenapa si suami kepengen ngontrak rumah?jawabannya adalah biar merasa bebas,gak kagok sama mitoha cenah..

Sementara pikiran istri masih ingin tinggal sama orang tuanya adalah supaya ibunya mengajarkan cara menjadi istri yang baik..

Supaya orang tuanya memberikan mana yang baik dan mana yang tidak boleh di lakukan istri,

Dan pada saat usia pernikahan menginjak 3 tahun,nah disinilah awal mula masalah yang agak berat menerpa biduk rumah tangga kita.

Masalah datang silih berganti,dari mulai  biaya ngurus anak,ngasih makan anak,hingga mikirin biaya  sehari hari...

Dan ketika usia pernikahan menginjak usia 5 tahun,inilah yang paling berat berat nya beban ujian dalam berumah tangga...

Kenapa di bilang ujian terberat?karena di usia yang ke lima tahun inilah,,semuanya sudah saling terbuka,

Dan sifat dan sikap asli kita dan istri kita sudah terlihat aslinya wataknya.

Terkadang dalam menghadapi masalah yang datang,si suami keukeuh ingin menyelesaikan masalah yang ada menurut cara dia.

Sedang si istri juga gak mau ngalah,ingin menyelesaikan masalah menurut caranya.

Jadi disini kedua duanya pada pada egois,disinilah letak kedewasaan kita di uji.

Memang yang harus kalian ketahui,keduanya itu mempunyai tujuan yang sama yang ingin di capai,yaitu,bisa merasakan kebahagiaan dalam berumah tangga.

Namun di balik tujuan yang sama itu,ada perbedaan dari si suami dan si istri dalam cara menggapai kebahagiaan yang ingin di dapat.

Istilahnya tujuannya sama,ingin bahagia,namun jalan yang di tempuh berbeda,si suami menginginkan jalan yang di kehendakinya yang di pake,

Dan si istri pun menginginkan jalan yang di inginkan olehnya untuk menggapai bahagia.

Nah di usia yang kelima tahun inilah ,jika kita bisa bertahan menghadapi badai yang menerjang perahu kita,kita pasti akan selamat,

Dan bisa terus berlayar di tengah  samudera kehidupan.

Namun jika kita tidak bisa kuat menghadapi  badai yang datang,maka hancurlah  kapal yang kita tumpangi,

Dan kapal kita akan karam di tengah gulungan ombak kehidupan.

Kalian harus tahu yang namanya ujian dalam berumah tangga itu datangnya silih berganti.

Terkadang ujian bisa datang lewat diri kita sendiri,terkadang lewat istri kita,terkadang lewat anak anak kita,

Dan tidak jarang ujian datang lewat orang tua kita.

Ujian bisa juga datang lewat mitoha(mertua) kita,tetangga kita.paman dan bibi kita,dan terkadang  bisa lewat kita sendiri.

Jika kita dengan istri kita selalu adem ayem,maka ujian akan datang lewat anak anak kita,

Karena namanya orang hidup,pasti akan selalu kena masalah dan ujian.

Tergantung cara kita menyikapi dan menghadapi ujian dan masalah yang sedang kita hadapi.

Jika kita ingin selalu di berikan jalan keluar yang mudah,di saat kita sedang punya masalah,maka ucapkanlah selalu astagfirullohal adziim ya alloh,sebanyak banyaknya....

Sambil pikiran kita memohon kepada alloh agar di berikan  jalan keluar yang mudah atas masalah yang sedang kita hadapi,

Jika kita telah bisa melewati ujian dan masalah yang datang kepada diri kita dan bahtera rumah tangga kita,

Coba kalian bantu saudara saudara kita,atau teman teman kita yang mempunyai masalah hidup yang sama dengan yang telah kita hadapi,

Kasih solusi,atau jalan keluar agar teman teman kita,atau saudara saudara kita bisa melewati masalah yang sedang ia hadapi.

Jika kita bisa membantu mencarikan jalan keluar di saat teman atau saudara kita punya masalah,yakinlah

Di saat kita punya masalah lagi,kita akan ada aja jalan keluarnya.kita juga gak tahu...

Karena inilah yang disebut hukum sebab akibat,karena kita telah membantu teman kita,atau saudara kita keluar dari masalah yang sedang ia hadapi,maka dengan sendirinya ketika 

Kita sedang punya masalah,akan ada aja jalan keluar yang telah alloh mudahkan untuk kita.

___________________In english :______________

💁💁💁💂 ___ assallaamualaikum ....__ 💁💂💂💂

"What we believe in and what our wives believe in, these are the things that make us always quarrel with our husbands or wives".

O young people ..._____________

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For those of you who are just experiencing household life, you must know, if your household is only 3 months old,

It is the time for our sweet sweetheart with our partners.

We even want to go to the bathroom, our wife will follow it hahahahaha ...

I was so afraid of being left behind, hahaha ...

At the age of 3 months in a household, usually the original character and attitude of us and our wives are still not open.

Alias ​​still jaim,

JaIM WOY, not baIM, the person will get angry at talking, hahhaa ....

After one year we were married, then problems began to approach our household dipper.

The problem comes because on the one hand we as husbands want to separate the house from the wife's parents, aka want to live independently, and rent a house.

On the one hand, the wife still wants to live with her mother, with her parents.

Why does the husband want to rent a house? The answer is to feel free, not confused with Mitoha cenah ...

Meanwhile, the thought of the wife still wanting to live with her parents is for her mother to teach her how to be a good wife ..

So that the parents give what is good and what the wife should not do,

And at the age of 3 years of marriage, this is where a rather severe problem begins to hit our household.

Problems come and go, starting from the cost of taking care of the child, giving the child food, to thinking about daily expenses ...

And when the age of marriage turns 5 years old, this is the heaviest exam burden in a household ...

Why is it called the toughest test? Because at the age of five, everything is open to each other,

And the original nature and attitude of us and our wives have seen their original character.

Sometimes in dealing with problems that come, the husband insists on solving the problem according to his way.

While the wife also doesn't want to give in, wants to solve problems according to her way.

So here both of them are selfish, this is where our maturity is tested.

Indeed, what you should know, both of them have the same goal that you want to achieve, namely, to be able to feel happiness in a household.

But behind that same goal, there is a difference between the husband and the wife in how to achieve the happiness they want to get.

The term is the same goal, wants to be happy, but the path taken is different, the husband wants the path he wants to use,

And the wife also wants the path she wants to reach happiness.

Now at the age of five years, if we can survive the storms that hit our boats, we will definitely survive,

And can continue to sail in the middle of the ocean of life.

But if we can't stand up to the coming storm, then the ship we were traveling will be destroyed,

And our ship will sink amidst the rolling waves of life.

You have to know what the tests in the household come and go.

Sometimes the test can come through ourselves, sometimes through our wives, sometimes through our children,

And it is not uncommon for exams to come through our parents.

Tests can also come through our mitoha (in-laws), our neighbors, our uncles and aunts, and sometimes it can be through ourselves.

If we are always cool with our wives, then the test will come through our children,

Because the name is a living person, there will always be problems and tests.

It depends on how we respond and face the tests and problems we are facing.

If we want to always be given an easy way out, when we are having a problem, then always say astagfirullohal adziim ya alloh, as much as possible ...

While our minds ask Allah to give us an easy way out of the problem we are facing,

If we have been able to pass the tests and problems that come to us and our household ark,

Try to help our brothers and sisters, or our friends who have the same life problems we have faced,

Give a solution, or a way out so that our friends, or our relatives can get through the problem he is facing.

If we can help find a solution when a friend or relative has a problem, rest assured

When we have another problem, we will just have a solution. We also don't know ...

Because this is what is called the law of cause and effect, because we have helped our friend, or our brother, get out of the problem he is facing, then automatically when

We are currently having a problem, there will be a way out that Allah has made it easy for us.